Who am I?
My name is Nikki, young wife to my amazing husband, Matt, and fur baby mom to Nala cat and puppy Shiloh. I’m a homemaker 24/7, taking care of my husband, our animals, and running our home. When I’m not doing that, I write about married life – being a newlywed, stay-at-home wife (with no kids), and being a more biblical wife the way God intended and created for us to be – and traditional homemaking in today’s modern world.
I like to think of myself as a pink obsessed, glamorous housewife. I love all things vintage, including the lifestyle, and anything that is the color pink. I collect vintage nightwear, mismatched tea sets, accessories, and other little trinkets. You can find me with a latte, ice coffee or a cup of tea almost everyday. I love hosting dinners and parties. I always have an open home for anyone that needs a warm, safe place to stay. I’m always creating new dishes and baking various sweets in my kitchen, and if I’m not doing that, I’ll be in my beauty room surrounded by my collection of shoes, handbags, and clothes galore.
The Beginning of Girl After Marriage
You are probably wondering, what exactly is ‘Girl After Marriage’? Well, first off, let me explain where the name came from.
It came about one night when I was visiting my eldest sister, just one of those sisterly late night talks where we sit and talk about life, how we were personally doing, and how we both wanted to start blogging. Now, I always wanted to start a blog, I just never knew what my niche could be. “What would I even write about? Would anyone even read it? What if I’m wasting my time?”, I would think to myself. It was because of this fear and these thoughts that I never did pursue my dream of writing for many years.
We somehow ended up on the topic of relationships, specifically dating and marriage, and how it has changed over the last few decades. I did express that I felt that I was looked at as strange or even a little crazy for being a young newlywed in today’s world. My husband and I were in a ‘dating with a purpose’ relationship, or courtship, and overall just did things a little more traditionally. We also are the first ones in our immediate friend group that bit-the-bullet and decided to get married, since we did not see the point in waiting around a few more years. We felt ready. Because of this, I do get asked a lot of questions about our relationship, about being married, and things related to that, from many, many people. “Don’t you want to enjoy your 20’s? Why are you settling down now?”, are just a few of the questions I get asked.
Also, not only am I a young wife, but I am also a housewife and homemaker, which you do not hear about at all when it comes to women my age. Usually when you hear homemaker, you picture a woman who is a little older, has young children, and that she decided to be a stay-at-home mom in order to raise her kids and take care of the house while her husband worked. However, that is not the case for me: I am the complete opposite. I do not have kids to take care of, so I totally have the option to go to work, yet I chose not to. It was starting to become difficult for me to explain this choice my husband and I made together, and that yes, I am a stay-at-home wife with no kids. “Do you not want to have a career? What do you even do at home? Why don’t you want to work? Are you forced to stay home?” I get more questions about this topic then I do about my marriage.
As we sipped our wine and ate some snacks laying around the counter, it was then that my sister literally had a light bulb moment. “Why don’t you write a blog about your dating and marriage journey and about being a housewife in today’s world?!”, she exclaimed to me. And at that moment, my eyes lit up and the gears in my brain started to turn.
The Purpose of Girl After Marriage
It. Was. Perfect! I cannot even explain the excitement that flowed through me, and all these thoughts started going through my head of what I wanted to write about and share with other young women who are currently dating, engaged, or even married! I wanted to share with family and friends little glimpses of my married life, for girlfriends to find encouragement and advice when searching and waiting for “the one“, and to read about what a biblical marriage is truly like. I want it to be a place where other women can read about the journey of a girl who searched, dreamed, prayed, and waited for her prince charming.
My husband calls me a “traditional girl in a modern world”, and that describes me perfectly.
So ‘Girl After Marriage’ was created, a blog where I could write and share about my path towards marriage, this crazy new adventure of being married to my best friend, about being a homemaker in today’s society, and all things lifestyle. It is a place where other women can learn or relate to what being a young wife is like, the ups and downs of being in a relationship, and how to have a successful marriage.
So this is me, the Girl After Marriage. Follow me as turn the page and begin the next chapter of my life.