12 Valuable Tips and Marriage Advice For Young Wives

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12 Valuable Marriage Tips and Advice For Young Wives

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12 Valuable Tips and Marriage Advice For Young Wives:
From a Young Wife Completing her First Year of Marriage

As young wives, we want the beautiful, fairy tale ending, our happily ever after. We dream of being the princess waiting for her knight in shining armor to come and sweep her off her feet. But the movies and story books never show you what happens after you ride away with your prince into the sunset. You don’t see what married life is really like, and there aren’t always sequels to the stories you hear. How do you know Cinderella didn’t get a divorce? Or what if Snow White is unhappy in her marriage?

Once the wedding day and all those festivities leading up to it are finished, it is now just the two of you. If you thought that being in the dating/engaged stage of a relationship and planning a wedding was work, married life is a whole different ball game. Unfortunately, there are couples out there, especially young couples, who do not completely understand just how much effort you personally need to put into a marriage. It is definitely not always going to be all rainbows and butteries! But guess what, it can be! Well, at least most of the time, but like I said, it will take work.

As I approach my first wedding anniversary, I gained a lot of valuable marriage advice from other wives, especially in the beginning of my marriage. Although, I learned a lot more from personal experience. I found what works for us and really helped us to achieve a healthy and successful first year of marriage, and building a foundation along the way for the years ahead.

However, it’s not always a guarantee that the first year will be successful, or the next, or the one after that. Marriage takes work from both partners. As long as each partner is doing their part in the relationship, you are definitely already on the path for success. As a young wife, I gathered together some valuable tips and marriage advice for other young wives that I would like to share, so that you beautiful ladies can learn from these pieces of advice, and hopefully you’ll be able to apply some of these into your marriage!

12 Valuable Marriage Tips and Advice For Young Wives

Pray For Your Husband Everyday and for Yourself! 

Pray as your husband leaves for work in the morning, as he goes to sleep at the end of the day, and especially together as a couple. Prayer is so powerful, because words themselves have power! A little prayer goes a long way.

And pray for yourself, as well! Pray that you have a good day, for safety as you run your errands for the day, for wisdom to be a better wife and mother, or for protection from any negativity trying to get into your mind and into your marriage.

Look for Different Ways to Shower Him With Love

Men appreciate the little things we do or say. Something as simple as making him a snack before bed without him having to ask, or surprising him with some freshly baked goods when he comes home at the end of the day will put a smile on his face. Telling him you paid the bills and not to worry about it. Offering to walk the dog or put the kids to bed and letting him rest after a long day, giving him a chance to relax. And just telling him daily that you love him and appreciate the things he does for you and for your family, are little ways you can show your husband that you love him. The little things that we think don’t matter, do.


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Don’t Complain, Nag, or Play the Blame Game 

This is the biggest piece of marriage advice for young wives that I want to emphasis. Nagging your husband and being aggressive will get you no where. Complaining or playing the blame game will only start the path of resentment towards you, which in time may even kill his attraction towards you. Nagging, blaming, and being aggressive is total masculine energy. This is a reason why men either call it quits and want a divorce, or go out and cheat on you (also a leading cause for divorce).

As the wife, we are the helper in the relationship. We should not force our husbands to take the back seat and belittle him. This is where we need to go back into our feminine energy and lean back, but know that we need to take charge of the situation. Know that you, too, need to take personal responsibility and cannot throw your husband under the bus every time something happens. Think about what you can do on your part, and open up the way for communication.

Approach the situation in a kind way. Think of it like being as smooth and sweet as honey. A little reminder or a simple explanation will be enough to get the point across without being aggressive. Do not try to convince him to see things your way. Convincing will have you fall into the trap of masculine energy.

I’m not perfect myself, sometimes I do let out a snappy remark or comment. I realize my mistake and apologize soon after.

If he is at fault, don’t yell at him about it, communicate instead. It is most likely that he either forgot or did not realize what he was doing. Communication is absolute key. Remember, be sweet as honey, and he will be more likely to listen.

Surround Yourself with People Who Support You As a Couple

Avoid people who are not encouraging or supportive. You do not need their negative energy surrounding your bubble of love and happiness.

Protect Your Marriage

The outside world will try and put doubt into your mind. It will try to drive a wedge between you and your husband. Is he the right one? Did I make the right choice? What if everyone is is right about my marriage being doomed for failure? Never. Give. Up. This is where the first valuable tip I gave of prayer comes into play. When times get hard, work together, pray to God for wisdom and guidance. God wrote your love story and put you together for a reason, so hold onto each other and do not let the world ruin your relationship with its lies and negative words.

Give Each Other Space

The great part of being married is spending time with your best friend everyday! But as humans, we need a break at times. Go out with the girls, let him play video games with the guys, plan a weekend getaway. Whatever it may be, time apart is healthy, and gives you the chance to miss each other, which will bring you closer together as a couple.

12 Valuable Marriage Tips and Advice For Young Wives

Be Sure to Have Time to Focus on You

Another piece of marriage of advice for young wives that I want to mention, is finding time to focus on yourself. It’s so important to know that even though you are married, this does not mean you 1. Let yourself go and stop taking care of yourself, and 2. That all you time, energy, and attention is for your husband only.

It’s okay and even necessary to treat yourself. Go shopping and buy some new clothes, dye your hair, or go to the gym and work out. Taking care of yourself will not only build confidence in yourself, but your husband will appreciate that his gorgeous wife practices self-care. Also, take care of yourself mentally. Your mindset is linked to the energy you omit to the word around you. If you have negative thoughts, fear, resentment, anything like that, it will be projected into your marriage.

Being married does mean that it is no longer about you, and that another person needs to be involved in any decision making. You are now a team! But don’t think that you need to dedicate all your energy and attention to your husband. If anything, this will eventually begin to bother him. You start becoming too clingy and needy, and you could end up over-giving. It may even get to the point where he is so annoyed by it and his love begins to fade. Another attraction killer. Yikes! Need I even say that this is yet another path down a certain road?

You need to find a healthy balance where you think about the other person and consider their thoughts and feelings, but also know that you are important, too! When you take care of you, love yourself, and know that you are valuable and thrive in your feminine energy, you will be able to clearly focus on taking care of you home, your family, and your husband.

Also, your husband will love on you and shower you with affection, treating you like the queen you truly are just because you are taking care of you! When you thrive in your positive, feminine energy, it is amazing what you will get in return.

Go On Date Nights

Monthly date nights are very important, even when you are married. Go out to dinner and try a new restaurant, have a board game night, or even going on a walk together. It keeps things fresh and breaks you out of routine. And sometimes you just want to get out of the house and enjoy a night out with your husband, especially if you have children.

Communicate Often

Communication is honestly the number one trait and another very important piece of marriage advice for young wives to utilize and focus on. Speak with your partner often, discuss finances, budgets, upcoming events, and anything else on your mind that you think is important for your husband to know about.

If something is bothering you, tell him! Don’t bottle it up! If you do, you will eventually blow up and he won’t see it coming. If he asks you whether something is wrong, don’t say, “Nothing”. Tell him! Sit down and talk together. Keeping silent and not communicating with your spouse can cause harm (such as trust issues) in your marriage.

12 Valuable Marriage Tips and Advice For Young Wives

Forgive and Apologize Freely

If you made a mistake or said something wrong, apologize. If he did something and apologizes for it, forgive. Do not hold anything over him, do not bring it back up in the future. You apologize, forgive, and forget. Easy as that.

If it is a situation where a discussion needs to happen, then sit down and talk about it. If you need to walk away from each other and sleep on it, then so be it. Sometimes you need to be apart and think things over. It’s honestly better to take a break then let the conversation escalate to a full out argument.

Respect Your Husband

Show respect to your husband. He is the leader, the provider in the family. Value his opinion when it comes to decisions, consider what his needs are, and be thoughtful. A man wants nothing more than respect from his wife. He wants to know that she values who he is not only as a husband, but as a man.

Express Gratitude and Appreciation

Men love it when a woman expresses her gratitude and appreciation when he does something for her. They love the recognition. He brings home a bouquet of flowers, say thank you. Makes you breakfast in bed, say thank you. Watered the garden or did the dishes even though he didn’t have to, say thank you. Men love to please, they love to give, it’s wired in them to do so. Take it, embrace it, and show your appreciation for the work and little things he does for you and for the family.

Bonus Tip!: The Word of God is the Best Book for Marriage Advice

When times get tough and things are not working out between the two of you alone, you can definitely turn towards a marriage counselor or a neutral third party for advice. However, if you want truth, guidance, and wisdom, reading the Word of God and studying the scripture can help you get back to what a marriage truly is about. God created marriage. He made man and woman and created us in our own unique ways to work together as a couple. It is the best book to go to for advice.

No one is perfect, and no marriage will be perfect either. We are flawed human beings, but as long as we hold ourselves accountable, help our partner grow, as well as take care of yourself, you will find a balance in your marriage that will lead you on the path to success.


12 Valuable Tips and Marriage Advice For Young Wives


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