Why I Decided To Be A Stay-At-Home Wife (With No Kids)

Why I Decided To Be A Stay-At-Home Wife

I always wanted to be a stay-at-home wife and liked the idea of being able to keep house, prepare meals, and run all the errands. But I always thought it was a far off dream way into the future for me. Little did I know that God had my life planned out differently.

When I say I am a stay-at-home wife (or a homemaker), some people are surprised. Some are even more amazed when I say I do not have kids, or plan on having any in the near immediate future. I find this funny since it was not too long ago it was acceptable and seen as a respected vocation (with or without children). Nowadays, women are encouraged to have a full-time career outside the home and climb up the corporate ladder. And I’m all for that! I encourage all women to grow and chase their goals.

That used to my goal once upon a time ago, too. The idea of being a stay-at-home wife was something I thought would happen long into the future and when I had children. Not once did I consider that being a homemaker was an option for me in my younger years.

Once I met my husband though, my goals ended up changing completely. I no longer desired of working towards building a career, but instead wanted to work towards creating and running my own home.

Why I Decided To Be A Stay-At-Home Wife

Why I Decided To Be A Stay-At-Home Wife
(With No Kids!)

This eagerness to be a stay-at-home wife stemmed from a variety of influences. Seeing my mom as a homemaker is one of the main ones. Growing up in that environment and having her at home meant a lot when it came to my childhood. I learned and saw first hand what she did as a wife and mother. She kept the house in order and kept things going, even on those days where I knew she was tired and wanted a break.

This shaped and formed my view of what being a homemaker was like, and I knew that one day I wanted to be one. By watching other married women, old and young, who are stay-at-home wives themselves, ignited little flames to my dream even more.

In a way, I felt encouraged to be a homemaker, not only from my family and those around me but also a calling from God. I felt that He had this path in life planned out and meant for me. The desire was so much stronger to go down this road than any other, so I knew it had to be a calling.

“The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only – and that is to support the ultimate career. ”― C.S. Lewis

Why I Decided To Be A Stay-At-Home Wife

During our engagement, Matt and I discussed our goals, our dreams, and what we expected from each other once we were married. I breached the topic of me possibly staying at home, and listed all the benefits if I did. I also told him of all the things I would do at home, what I wanted to pursue, and of course one of my dreams to start a blog full-time. Surprisingly, Matt was all for it! No hesitation and was even ecstatic at the idea. This, in turn, made me thrilled. After we went over our finances, we realized that it was not necessary for me to work. However, if I wanted to, it was my choice.

With his earnings, we could live a simple, comfortable lifestyle, and that’s all we need and want. So I quit my job a few weeks before the wedding. This gave me time to finish moving into our new home and getting it set-up and organized for us, as well as get any last minute details for the wedding done. I thought that maybe after the summer I would go back to work part-time. But as summer ended and we entered into fall, we realized that me being at home was the best situation for us.

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By the time 3 months of marriage went by, I became fully accustomed to my domestic duties and tasks. I knew I wouldn’t be going back to work anytime soon. This was my new job! Being a stay-at-home wife is a 24/7 career, and I was all for it. In the very beginning of my first becoming a stay-at-home wife, we had one fur baby, our little rescue cat Nala. However, not too long after we got another, our adorable puppy Shiloh. So now I had two little creatures to take care of! And oh my, are these two absolute trouble, but what joy do they bring to our lives!

A total bonus of my staying home is that it has helped our marriage grow! We each have a role and contribute in our own way to our relationship. I have time freedom and flexibility that I didn’t when I was working full-time. I’m able to spend more time with my family, run errands without feeling rushed, and take my time cleaning. Being at home lets me be here for our fur babies. But the best of all is that I have the opportunity to be the wife that I want to be for my husband.

I’ve become so much happier, too! No more stress or anxiety that I would constantly have when I worked, having this weight on my shoulders every day. Now I wake up in the morning knowing that my job is to run my household and to care for my family. And I have time to work on my blog! Total bonus!

Now, being a housewife is not for everyone. Each person is unique in their goals and dreams, and what they want to do with their life. Maybe you don’t have that opportunity just yet, but it is something you want in the future. Or perhaps you are the type that loves working outside of the home, working for a company, or you have your own business. Whatever your goals are for your life, chase those dreams and know you can achieve anything.

I love being a traditional stay-at-home wife and being able to do all the roles that come with the job. It is a blessing that God has given me this opportunity to do what I’ve always dreamed. I am thankful every day, and I make sure that I show that through my homemaking.

Why I Decided to Be a Stay-At-Home Wife

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  • V at LoveBecomesHer


    I think it’s funny how the tables have turned in such a short amount of time. How the definition of a career has flipped around so drastically.

    It’s great you are able to do what you love, and share your story here. The thought had not crossed my mind until recently, but I can see how fulfilling being a stay at home wife would be, too. Do what works for you both, it’s beautiful.

    • Nikki

      Wow, thank you so much for your comment! It’s so nice to hear that others understand where I’m coming from. We are very happy 🙂

  • Mirley Guerra Graf


    Great article! I’m a stay at home mom and wife and I was not always open to the idea of it even though my mom was. I saw myself doing something greater. I quit my teaching job because my husband is in the Navy and it was so hard for me to get a new credential in every state. I wasn’t happy about it at first but now I’m happy. I couldn’t ask for a happier life.

    • Nikki

      So glad to hear that you’re happy with where you are now! It’s such a fulfilling position being at home!

  • Shawn @ Healthy Wealthy Skinny


    Hi Nikki,
    This is a great post. I love your truth. It makes me happy to see someone in a position in their life that they are truly happy with. Continue growing and living your dream life!

    • Nikki

      Thank you so much! We definitely are!

  • Sarah


    I spent the first six years of our marriage at home as a stay-at-home wife and don’t regret it at all. It was a wonderful time for our marriage to grow and for us to learn to appreciate each other. It also helped us learn how to manage our lives on a single income, which has made our lives so much easier in the long run. Enjoy this time together!

    • Nikki

      Thank you so much! <3

  • Clair


    I love this! I am a stay at home mom and wouldn’t have it any other way! Before, I was a high school science teacher. Being a SAHM is one of the hardest jobs I have ever had, but also one of the most rewarding ones! Congrats on yalls beautiful journey 💕

    • Nikki

      Thank you so much, Clair! We are so happy and love the way our married life is. 🙂

  • Nailil


    I agree that it is interesting how people don’t see staying home as a good thing in this modern world. Truth is that being a homemaker is far as important as working away from home – sometimes it’s even harder.

    Xx, Nailil

  • Brandi Michel


    I really admire your strength to stand out from the cultural norm. I love your heart behind your choice and greatly respect it! I love this post!

  • Tara


    I think to each his/her own, right? I was super enmeshed in building my nursing career (still am) for the longest time. Now I’m getting my doctorate and blogging full time, but no longer working in the hospital or nursing administration. My life is SO much more stress free not dealing with the various personalities and headaches that encompassed my working world. Happy for your happiness!

  • Emily


    Our lives are so much better when I’m not working constantly and exhausted when I get home. Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad for equality for women,but unfortunately society has found a way to turn this opportunity into almost a new type of oppression! A woman who chose to care for the house and husband instead of chasing money she doesn’t even need shouldn’t be devalued! Nurturing is necessary!

    • Nikki

      Absolutely! Couldn’t agree more.

  • Dayna


    I love this! I’m a stay at home wife with no kids myself! It happened because I was getting so stressed working a full time and part time job and wanted so badly to have my own business. Thankfully my husband was also all for it! We’re living a simple life as well and it has definitely helped grow our marriage much more than if I was still working two jobs. Thanks for sharing! Great post 😊

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