I always wanted to be a stay-at-home wife and liked the idea of being able to keep house, prepare meals, and run all the errands. But I always thought it was a far off dream way into the future for me. Little did I know that God had my life planned out differently.
When I say I am a stay-at-home wife (or a homemaker), some people are surprised. Some are even more amazed when I say I do not have kids, or plan on having any in the near immediate future. I find this funny since it was not too long ago it was acceptable and seen as a respected vocation (with or without children). Nowadays, women are encouraged to have a full-time career outside the home and climb up the corporate ladder. And I’m all for that! I encourage all women to grow and chase their goals.
That used to my goal once upon a time ago, too. The idea of being a stay-at-home wife was something I thought would happen long into the future and when I had children. Not once did I consider that being a homemaker was an option for me in my younger years.
Once I met my husband though, my goals ended up changing completely. I no longer desired of working towards building a career, but instead wanted to work towards creating and running my own home.
Why I Decided To Be A Stay-At-Home Wife
(With No Kids!)
This eagerness to be a stay-at-home wife stemmed from a variety of influences. Seeing my mom as a homemaker is one of the main ones. Growing up in that environment and having her at home meant a lot when it came to my childhood. I learned and saw first hand what she did as a wife and mother. She kept the house in order and kept things going, even on those days where I knew she was tired and wanted a break.
This shaped and formed my view of what being a homemaker was like, and I knew that one day I wanted to be one. By watching other married women, old and young, who are stay-at-home wives themselves, ignited little flames to my dream even more.
In a way, I felt encouraged to be a homemaker, not only from my family and those around me but also a calling from God. I felt that He had this path in life planned out and meant for me. The desire was so much stronger to go down this road than any other, so I knew it had to be a calling.
“The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only – and that is to support the ultimate career. ”― C.S. Lewis
During our engagement, Matt and I discussed our goals, our dreams, and what we expected from each other once we were married. I breached the topic of me possibly staying at home, and listed all the benefits if I did. I also told him of all the things I would do at home, what I wanted to pursue, and of course one of my dreams to start a blog full-time. Surprisingly, Matt was all for it! No hesitation and was even ecstatic at the idea. This, in turn, made me thrilled. After we went over our finances, we realized that it was not necessary for me to work. However, if I wanted to, it was my choice.
With his earnings, we could live a simple, comfortable lifestyle, and that’s all we need and want. So I quit my job a few weeks before the wedding. This gave me time to finish moving into our new home and getting it set-up and organized for us, as well as get any last minute details for the wedding done. I thought that maybe after the summer I would go back to work part-time. But as summer ended and we entered into fall, we realized that me being at home was the best situation for us.
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By the time 3 months of marriage went by, I became fully accustomed to my domestic duties and tasks. I knew I wouldn’t be going back to work anytime soon. This was my new job! Being a stay-at-home wife is a 24/7 career, and I was all for it. In the very beginning of my first becoming a stay-at-home wife, we had one fur baby, our little rescue cat Nala. However, not too long after we got another, our adorable puppy Shiloh. So now I had two little creatures to take care of! And oh my, are these two absolute trouble, but what joy do they bring to our lives!
A total bonus of my staying home is that it has helped our marriage grow! We each have a role and contribute in our own way to our relationship. I have time freedom and flexibility that I didn’t when I was working full-time. I’m able to spend more time with my family, run errands without feeling rushed, and take my time cleaning. Being at home lets me be here for our fur babies. But the best of all is that I have the opportunity to be the wife that I want to be for my husband.
I’ve become so much happier, too! No more stress or anxiety that I would constantly have when I worked, having this weight on my shoulders every day. Now I wake up in the morning knowing that my job is to run my household and to care for my family. And I have time to work on my blog! Total bonus!
Now, being a housewife is not for everyone. Each person is unique in their goals and dreams, and what they want to do with their life. Maybe you don’t have that opportunity just yet, but it is something you want in the future. Or perhaps you are the type that loves working outside of the home, working for a company, or you have your own business. Whatever your goals are for your life, chase those dreams and know you can achieve anything.
I love being a traditional stay-at-home wife and being able to do all the roles that come with the job. It is a blessing that God has given me this opportunity to do what I’ve always dreamed. I am thankful every day, and I make sure that I show that through my homemaking.